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Is Biting The Sexy Kink You’re Looking For?

Article By Mimi Erhardt

~ JANUARY 2023 ~


Sex and masochism – a new territory for many people, but this kinky trend could refresh your sex life.


Are you the type of person who can really bite into something? Or … into someone? Who likes to bite during sex? Not a tender nibbling, but really. Let’s talk love bites.

A few years ago, I dated a man who was busy in Berlin’s kinky party scene – and who was into biting. Already on the first date he bit me. There is still somewhat harmless in the upper arm. “Ouch,” I thought and that I really don’t like pain, kinkiness, back and forth.

Later, the man repeated the thing with biting. Below the belt line and so firm that: A.) I remembered a remarkable hematoma and B.) the realization that I will no longer be bitten by anyone, unless it is my recently somewhat disheartented cat, Manfred. He is the only one allowed and only if I’ve annoyed him.

Back to the human biter. Our liaison ended shortly after the painful incident, and I hope he has now found his counterpart, someone with whom he can live out his bite fetish.

Erotic biting – between sadism and masochism


In fact, the bite fetish, technically correct also called Odaxelagnie, is not even so unproblematic if the intensity of the bites exceeds a certain degree. In this case, it is the sexually motivated desire to inflict injuries on others through bites (lust) pain, possibly even. Or to be inflicted on yourself. This fetish is also often referred to as a mild form of sadism – and vice versa – masochism.


For many, the attraction consists in living out the residual animal in us: Original, aggressive and almost uncontrolled with maximum arousal, this behavior can also be found in the animal kingdom. If my cat Manfred had not neutered, he would grab his roommate, a British short-haired lady named Owl, in the neck while climbing so that she could stand still.

I digress.

Popular parts of the body for bite fetishists, whether active or passive, are the insides of the thighs, Venus hills, nipples, neck, lips, arms and buttocks. Those who like it harder sometimes bite genitals. Ouch. How hard someone bites (or bites) is very individual. Some bite rather playfully, others bury their teeth in the flesh as if they literally wanted to bite off. By the way, I experienced the latter case.

Bite fetish: You should pay attention to this

It gets tricky when blood flows. In the event of a bite, viruses and bacteria can be transmitted, and often an infection occurs afterwards, which can have health consequences. In this case, be sure to consult a doctor.

But a bite does not necessarily have to end bloody, and not every bite fetishist finds the sight of blood exciting. If this is the case, it is another fetish called Blood Play. More on that.


What if you have also fallen for biting pleasure and want to live it out with your partner? Talk openly about what turns you on. Ask the other person if you can gently nibble on him a little during sex – or vice versa.

If he says yes, first start with the classic erogenous zones such as the earlobe or the neck. In the meantime, you may ask if he likes it and if there are other places on his body that you should crisp. Sexy upgrade: Keep eye contact while biting.

By the way, as with any kind of pain play, it is important that the body parts that are to be treated are heated beforehand. By gently stroking, kissing or licking. Please no cold start. This is how you risk bruising and stripes.

If you combine biting and sucking, smooch stains can occur. If these are not desired, you should choose areas of the body that are not visible on the outside for this particular act.

You should definitely communicate whether the intensity of the love bites is okay for the bitten person. Whether he likes it more violently or softer or prefers to end the erotic game.

If the other person has no interest in biting games at all, you could find what you are looking for online. Some sex workers offer paid bite services.



A version of this article originally appeared here on gq.co.ca

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