~ AUGUST 2022 ~
Many of us feel as if we’re always running in a million different directions. When that happens, we might use our partners as our respite and relief.
But sometimes we forget to leave room for intimacy and connection, often because of how busy we are. Both ourselves and our partners need to have these special moments of connection to solidify the loving bond we share. So this article will give you a few pointers on creating more opportunities for connection.
When we are home with our partners, we should give them our undivided attention. Quality time does not mean sitting on opposite ends of the couch and scrolling through social media. Instead, try putting the phone down and have a meaningful conversation that will create a genuine connection.
An article from Bustle noted that paying more attention to our phones than partners decreases relationship satisfaction. While it’s easy to come home and scroll through your phone, avoid that since you might be risking a serious disconnect between you and your loved one.
Playing and acting silly with our loves allows us to be our authentic selves. When we have fun and laugh, we feel at ease and forget the responsibilities of our everyday lives, creating a more genuine connection.
For instance, an article from Fatherly suggests that couples who make effort to spend time playing and having fun together feel more connected and happier.
3. Express yourself
Our partner often becomes one of the core pieces of our support system. This means we need to be okay with showing our vulnerable side and listening to our partners when they’re not feeling their best.
What’s more, an article from Women’s Health states that creating a healthy emotional connection helps show your partner that you value your relationship and are willing to share your feelings. On the other hand, not being vulnerable with one another in a relationship can quickly create problems.
4. Dig deeper
In order to have authentic and deep connections with others, we must also know who we are. Many of us often find ourselves pushing away the parts of ourselves that we are not okay with. But these elements are bound to surface sooner or later.
An article from Chopra gives several ways of getting to know your true self. For example, doing some persona inventory will allow you to discover new things about yourself. Through that, you will also be able to explore your beliefs, learn from past experiences, and discover varius patterns in your personality. As a result, you will be able to find new opportunites and live your life differently, which will, in turn, allow you to connect with your partner on a deeper level.
5. Show affection
Small, unexpected moments of physical touch can help sustain a close emotional connection. Unfortunately, when a couple is together for a long time, they often get into a routine when it comes to physical affection. But there is joy in spontaneity.
In an article from The Every Girl, they offer several tips to keep up the spontaneity of romance. For instance, try avoiding routine physical touches. This means that you should refrain from only kissing goodbye or holding hands when out and about. Instead, hug your partner out of the blue, hold their hand while watching TV, or even unexpectedly graze their arm. All of these small gestures are incredibly significant.
6. Feel their heartbeat
An article from the NY Times gives instructions on how to have a moment with your partner where you literally feel their heartbeat. There’s also science behind it so you might want to give it a try.
Firstly, find a quiet moment with your partner and set a one-minute timer. Then, stand facing each other and place your hands on each other’s chests. Bring your left hand over your partner’s hand on your own chest and start the timer. While doing this, look into each other’s eyes for more intimacy.
Try not to speak or giggle and be present in the moment instead. This non-verbal moment can be extremely beneficial for the health of your relationship.
It is incredibly important to love and be loved. It’s also important to have a safe space and genuine connection with our loved ones.
A version of this article originally appeared here on readunwritten.com