Your Top Dating Related Inquiries of 2020, Revealed
2020 was particularly challenging when it came to love.
Not only was it harder for singles to meet people during quarantine, but those in relationships who spent 24/7 together in lockdown were put through the ringer as well. Needless to say, there were a lot of questions about how to handle these dating and relationship situations in such an unprecedented time.
But each question proved that people weren’t alone with their thoughts, with each subsequent answer proving that everyone across the world was dealing with the same thing. A look at Reddit’s dating subpage, which is packed with relatable inquiries relating to meeting and approaching women, maintaining a healthy relationship, and dealing with heartbreak, is all the proof you need.
There’s something innately comforting about tossing your burning questions out into the digital void with total anonymity, receiving input or advice from strangers who might be going through the same thing. Maybe it makes you feel a little bit less alone, or maybe it even helps you to see your situation in a totally new light.
Without further ado, let’s take a closer look at the most common dating and relationship questions that men were asking in 2020.
How do I meet women in quarantine?
Whether they were seeking a casual situation or something more serious, lots of guys wanted pointers on how to meet new people during the pandemic.
Luckily, lots of dating apps added new voice and video features, and singles fully embraced Zoom and FaceTime in order to make more meaningful connections while staying home. In fact, according to Hinge, almost half of its users have been on a video date at this point, and of those users, the majority plan to continue using video features even when they’re able to meet up safely in real life.
Would it be inappropriate in your line of work to date a coworker?
Dating a coworker is a pretty divisive topic — some insist it’s a terrible idea, while others claim that pulling a Jim and Pam (that one’s for you, The Office fans) is totally natural.
Needless to say, lots of guys were curious about the protocol for bringing a professional relationship to another level. The consensus? A workplace romance can totally work, but you need to set some ground rules and expectations first. It doesn’t hurt to prepare for the potential fallout if your relationship doesn’t pan out either (like some pretty awkward elevator rides).
What can I do to heal after being cheated on?
Finding out that your partner has been unfaithful is nothing short of devastating. In order to find better ways to cope with the pain, many men took to Reddit forums asking for tips and tricks that might enable them to move on.
Some of the advice included the following: blocking your ex and deleting their number, working out to get your mind off things, exploring some new hobbies you’ve always wanted to try, spending more time with your buddies, building yourself up with self-love, and seeking out professional help if you need it.
How long does it usually take you to get over a woman?
Plenty of people were left scratching their heads about how to heal after their relationship ended. While some users wanted actionable tips on how to stop thinking about their ex, many were just curious about when they can expect to finally move forward with their lives.
There’s no cut and dry answer here — it depends on factors such as how long you were dating, what the nature of your relationship and breakup was, what your support system is like, and how you’re coping with the split. Some guys said it took them two years to get over their partner, with others noting it took years. But on average, most claim to move on within two to six months.
Read this: 8 Ways to Get Over Someone Who Dumped You
What are some good date ideas when we can’t meet in person?
In 2019, your go-to place for a first date might have been drinks at a bar or appetizers at a restaurant. But obviously, in this COVID-19 world, options are somewhat limited.
That explains why so many guys sought out virtual date ideas that could allow them to get to know someone from the comfort and safety of home.
Why did she ghost me?
When someone you’re into suddenly drops off the face of the planet, it’s a total gut punch. Whether it’s an app match that suddenly went MIA, or someone who stopped texting you back after a few dates, you’re left scratching your head over what you did wrong.
Since no one can get inside your date’s head, most guys agree that it’s better to convince yourself that maybe you dodged a bullet after all. Think about it: You probably don’t want to be with someone who’s disrespectful enough to ghost you.
How do I stop feeling jealous?
It’s no secret that the green-eyed monster can quickly sabotage any relationship.
Users agree that the best way to cope with jealousy is to keep an open line of communication with your partner rather than trying to hide or suppress it, focusing on building up your self-worth and self-esteem while setting clear boundaries.
How often do you text in a relationship?
How much texting is considered “normal” these days? And how do you deal when one partner expects more texts throughout the day than the other? Some men wanted to know how frequently other guys text their partners during the workday, while others wanted to know how to manage expectations in their relationship when they’re not really big on texting.
Unsurprisingly, the frequency ranged quite a bit from texting once a day to checking in multiple times. However, men noted that this changed when they started working from home right alongside their significant others and were able to talk more in person (thus translating to less texting).
Read this: If You’re Struggling to Text Her, Read This
How do I get out of the friend zone?
Being stuck in the friend zone is an all-too-common conundrum. Fortunately, many men have managed to break free and find happiness on the other side. If you’re wondering how to get a female friend to see you differently, guys agree that you’ll need to start changing your behavior and finding opportunities to flirt before eventually making your feelings known.
Sure, there’s a chance that she may not be on the same page, but no risk, no reward, right?